"I refuse to let my fears control me."

My fears were always of dying alone until I realized that those I had surrounded myself with made me feel the most alone, never checking on me, turning the rest of the family against me, and alienating me from everyone until I got the memo that I was the problem.

I wasn't the problem. I'm retraining myself to be happy in my skin, in the peace of solitude, so that when I emerge from that cocoon, I can do so with confidence and joy.

What are your fears, and how are you trying to reframe them to give them less power over you?

Guys. It is the start of PUFFLING SEASON!

A puffling is a baby puffin!

I'm not sure anyone really knows this about me, but hnnngh. I love puffins so much. They're so freaking cute. And the dance is just adorable. So, in honor of this awesome season, I present to you, the Puffin Song, The Dance of the Puffin by Ze Frank. You even get to see boobies!

It's fucking amazing...and addicting. This song randomly assaults my memory throughout the year. lol

It's always important to acknowledge what you're feeling. Let yourself feel it. Let it wash over you, then through you. But the most important part is letting it go and bringing yourself back to center. The more you dwell in negativity, the more negativity you attract.

You can now buy The Banning of the Bath Bombs, a Ross x Unholy Trifecta x Spellbound crack!fic! It's a very short story, but AJ Sherwood and I couldn't help ourselves. This was so much fun to write. I hope you love it!

Buy it on AJ Sherwood's site for $2.99!

Disclaimer: All proceeds go toward getting me transportation since I recently totaled my car while trying to learn how to drive a manual transmission. My silly ass couldn't find second gear while going up the steep incline, and I forgot what a brake was. I rolled back into the car behind me, and my ass end went up under her front bumper. Not a speck of damage to her vehicle. Mine? Yeah. It didn't survive. RIP my Mini Cooper.

But yes. It went crash. So, I appreciate you. Your support helps more than you know.

Spiraling thoughts are liars. If you need a great resource for grounding techniques, breathing techniques, or other techniques to get through a spiral, or even short-circuit the spiral before it gets to a crescendo, there are some below.

I started with these worksheets during Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). Browse them at your leisure. Choose which ones you think will be most helpful for each of your main spirals. For instance, if you struggle with regulating your emotions, you might use the Emotional Regulation worksheet. This is an ongoing process, not a one-and-done. It's to log your emotions to see what events trigger your emotions to dysregulate so you can avoid those things, or seek more guidance on how to deal with or cope with those triggers.

Disclaimer: I am not a therapist. Please consult a licensed and accredited therapist to help you through your mental health struggles. These tools are NOT designed to replace a therapist. These are to be used in conjunction with your therapist, and should be shared with your mental health team so they can guide you to the worksheets you need for different issues or spirals.

If you cannot afford a therapist, check this resource (USA) to see if you can find financial aid for therapy, or if you can find a therapist who can work with you financially.

And if you or your loved one experiences a spiral with thoughts of hurting yourself/themselves or others, please reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline by calling or texting 988 (USA). If you are not in the USA, here is a list of suicide prevention hotlines around the world.

These tools are not a replacement for therapy.

I replace self-doubt with the belief that I am enough.

You are enough. Never let anyone ever let you feel otherwise.